Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Wooly Hair

My best friend Bill told me a story yesterday. He was getting his hair cut at a barbershop in Salt Lake City and the barber said to him, “You know, there are two types of people in the world.” Perplexed, Bill tried to think of the two types. Men and women? Christian and not? Rich and poor? The barber said, “Straight haired people and wooly haired people.” If you know my friend Bill, you know that he is African-American. He happened to be in one of the few black barbershops in Utah.


Safe to say, our son or daughter will be of the wooly haired persuasion. Do any of you but Bill know the first thing about wooly hair care? It may be as difficult for us to find a barber for our child in Spokane as it was for Bill in Utah. Said Bill, “Don’t look in the good neighborhoods.”


Bill told me another story. His son, Brendan, who has a white mother and has her color complexion, was at his first day of school a few years ago. Brendan is a bit shy and Bill was worried about him being able to make friends. When Brendan got home, he said he had a great day and had made a new friend, the only black child in the class. “We both have curly hair,” he said. Isn’t it great how simple kids can be?


We heard from adoption agency that there were no referrals last week. I guess after almost 50 referrals in the two previous weeks, it makes sense that they would slow down for a bit. They only have so much capacity since the adoptions have to go through the legal process in Ethiopia and they only have the ability to have about 10 families at a time in country. Breelyn and I are very excited to think how quickly we have moved up the list in the past month. We are getting close to the point when we will expect “The Call” any day. Maybe we should start a pool.


I tried to cook my favorite African dish,Ugali, last week. It did not go well. The chicken stew was not thick enough and was very bland. The corn meal mush was more like rapidly drying cement. My wonderful wife was very sweet and said she liked it. She put the corn meal in the stew like dumplings and enjoyed it that way. We still have a lot of it in the refrigerator. I was supposed to eat it last week while Breelyn was out of town. Probably not going to make it.


I hope all are happy and healthy. We would love to read your comments to this post or any of the others.


Love,

Breelyn and Mike

Saturday, July 25, 2009

A rush of referrals

Monday is the day that we get the email from our adoption agency stating how many families received referrals last week and the average wait time. The average referrals received per week has traditionally been about 6. With close to 400 families on the list it seems to move really slowwww.

For the last 2 weeks there have been over 20+ referrals each week. At first I get so excited, I have to text Mike at work "21 referrals last week - we are moving up the list baby." My heart starts to pound faster and Thursday I even worked myself into tears in my taxi on the way to LAX airport thinking about getting the call from the adoption agency saying we had been matched with a baby.

Then there is always that little nagging voice...gosh over 40 referrals in the last 2 weeks - all those Ethiopian families that are experiencing such loss, such grief, making such an agonizing decision to give up a child or children. My heart goes out to them. It hurts for them. Some days my heart hurts because I long to be a mom so bad...but lately my heart hurts for those who have lost their children due to death or poverty. I hope I or we...make you proud.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Tango and black churches

Mike and I attended a wonderful Tango dinner with about 30 other people from our church on Saturday night. We had a traditional Argentine dinner, listened to tango music and enjoyed some wonderful conversation. Among many wonderful guests, there was an amazing couple we dined with that are in their mid 80's. They have so much spunk...not to mention they are both over 6 feet tall - as are all 3 of their daughters. We were both enthralled with their story telling and the life they have lived. May we be as passionate and positive tomorrow as they are today.



One of the conversations we got into was of course about our decision to adopt and the challenges of bringing a black child to Spokane. We talked about the struggles our church has had in trying to be more diverse. Black couples and singles have joined over the years only to stop coming after a few months...and it is an incredibly welcoming...albeit white environment. It is something that has frustrated the congregation for some time. The church teaches diversity but can't seem to encourage significant diversity - of ethnicity at least.

So I started thinking about black churches. According to some research we have 18 traditionally black churches in Spokane including Calvary Baptist Church which is the oldest traditionally black church in the state of Washington. It started in 1890. Check out http://www.blackpast.org/?q=aaw/calvary-baptist-church-spokane-washington-1890 for more info.

From my recruiting work, I have always known that black churches can be the cornerstone of African American communities. But the question is, how do I get to know people in the church. I don't want to pretend to have the same belief system...I am not baptist, although my grandmother is. Do I just walk back and forth on the side walk and hope someone notices me...do I walk in and say "Hi I am adopting a black child and need a role model...do you know anyone that would fit the bill?" Of course I am teasing about both these options, but it is not easy. I've considered seeing if the church has a group for people our age - get to know other couples with kids potentially... but really it is not easy to develop these relationships. Suggestions?

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

dinner

By the way - the Dora wat I cooked last night...fantastic...found some berbere at World market. The Yemiser W'et (spicy lentil soup) was good too. Also made some Ethiopian cabbage, carrots and potatoes with turmeric and cumin - nummy. Injera...not good. Tried the buckwheat recipe and by my second one it was looking beautiful, bubbled up...peeling on the edges - but could not get it out of the pan without it falling apart. I resorted to brown rice which goes wonderfully.

I shall overcome...found a few sites on making an injera starter and a site that sells a electric 16inc grill that is perfect for making injera and is supposedly what many Ethiopians in the US use.

I'm going to order one and will keep you posted on my success. Did find some Teff at the natural food store so have all the right ingredients to make the real stuff...now just need some practice. I also found a site you can order fresh injera from on the Internet....hmmm.

Preventing the spread of HIV to newborns

Here is a post from a now defunct blog written by an American living in Addis Ababa. "Ferenge Addis Blog" I highly recommend taking some time to read through his postings.


When I tell people what I do it sounds like a string of acronyms. We’re trying to prevent the spread of HIV from infected mothers to their unborn and newborn babies. (Prevention of mother-to-child transmission, or PMTCT)

(If you were hoping for a funny travelogue, feel free to stop here and come back tomorrow.)

It works like this: When mothers come for pre-natal care (called ante-natal care or ANC here), they’re routinely tested for HIV while they’re being tested for anemia and other things. If they’re HIV-positive we can give them prophylactic drugs that will, in most cases, prevent spreading the infection to their babies during birth. The drug is Nevirapine and we give it to the mom at about 34 weeks gestation. Then we give it to the mom during labor, and to the baby within 72 hours of birth. The drug is cheap, it’s accessible, it has a great shelf live. Yet only about 1% of HIV-positive mothers and babies ever get it.

Why?

To start with, we never see most pregnant women at the health centers for ante-natal care. We see even fewer of them for delivery. In Ethiopia 94% of women deliver at home.

What to do?

If the women won’t come to the Nevirapine, we’re taking the Nevirapine to the women. We’re training Health Extension workers, who work house-to-house in rural areas, to administer the drug to mothers and babies at the appropriate times. Wish us luck.

See photos here

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Dora What?

Okay - it is my turn to cook Ethiopian tonight. I am making Dora wat, injera, some salad and something with lentils that I haven't figured out yet. Check out this tour of an Ethiopian restaurant.

Sunday, July 5, 2009

The Hunger Season

Here is an interesting article from the BBC regarding decreasing food rations to Ethiopia.

This one answers some interesting questions that come up regarding the ongoing famine in the country - it is from last year - but still pertinent.

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Ethiopian History Timeline from BBC

Timeline: Ethiopia
A chronology of key events:

2nd century AD - Kingdom of Axum becomes a regional trading power.

4th century - Coptic Christianity introduced from Egypt.


Obelisks in Axum, once the seat of an ancient kingdom


Restoring Ethiopia's great obelisk
1530-31 - Muslim leader Ahmad Gran conquers much of Ethiopia.

1818-68 - Lij Kasa conquers Amhara, Gojjam, Tigray and Shoa.

1855 - Kasa becomes Emperor Tewodros II.

1868 - Tewodros defeated by a British expeditionary force and commits suicide to avoid capture.

1872 - Tigrayan chieftain becomes Yohannes IV.

1889 - Yohannes IV killed while fighting Mahdist forces and is succeeded by the king of Shoa, who becomes Emperor Menelik II.

1889 - Menelik signs a bilateral friendship treaty with Italy at Wuchale which Italy interprets as giving it a protectorate over Ethiopia. Ethiopia rejects this interpretation, later renounces the treaty and repays a loan.

1889 - Addis Ababa becomes Ethiopia's capital.

Italy invades

1895 - Italy invades Ethiopia.

1896 - Italian forces defeated by the Ethiopians at Adwa; treaty of Wuchale annulled; Italy recognises Ethiopia's independence but retains control over Eritrea.

HAILE SELASSIE

Emperor of Ethiopia and god to the Rastafarian movement
Born in 1892
Became king in 1928, emperor in 1930
Died in 1975


2005: Last emperor
2000: Funeral in pictures
1913 - Menelik dies and is succeeded by his grandson, Lij Iyasu.

1916 - Lij Iyasu deposed and is succeeded by Menelik's daughter, Zawditu, who rules through a regent, Ras Tafari Makonnen.

1930 - Zawditu dies and is succeeded by Ras Tafari Makonnen, who becomes Emperor Haile Selassie I.

1935 - Italy invades Ethiopia.

1936 - Italians capture Addis Ababa, Haile Selassie flees, king of Italy made emperor of Ethiopia; Ethiopia combined with Eritrea and Italian Somaliland to become Italian East Africa.

Haile Selassie's reign

1941 - British and Commonwealth troops, greatly aided by the Ethiopian resistance - the arbegnoch - defeat the Italians, and restore Haile Selassie to his throne.

1952 - United Nations federates Eritrea with Ethiopia.

1962 - Haile Selassie annexes Eritrea, which becomes an Ethiopian province.

1963 - First conference of the Organisation of African Unity held in Addis Ababa.

"Red Terror"

MENGISTU HAILE MARIAM

Thousands were killed under Marxist dictator's "Red Terror"
Born in 1937
Head of state 1974-91
Exiled in Zimbabwe
2006: Convicted, in absentia, of genocide


2003: Red Terror 'hard to forgive'
2006: Mengistu guilty of genocide
1973-74 - An estimated 200,000 people die in Wallo province as a result of famine.

1974 - Haile Selassie overthrown in military coup. General Teferi Benti becomes head of state.

1975 - Haile Selassie dies in mysterious circumstances while in custody.

1977 - Benti killed and replaced by Colonel Mengistu Haile Mariam.

1977-79 - Thousands of government opponents die in "Red Terror" orchestrated by Mengistu; collectivisation of agriculture begins; Tigrayan People's Liberation Front launches war for regional autonomy.

1977 - Somalia invades Ethiopia's Ogaden region.

1978 - Somali forces defeated with massive help from the Soviet Union and Cuba.

1984-85 FAMINE

Almost one million people died after crops failed


On This Day 1984: Europe grants emergency aid
1984-85 - Worst famine in a decade strikes; Western food aid sent; thousands forcibly resettled from Eritrea and Tigre.

1987 - Mengistu elected president under a new constitution.

1988 - Ethiopia and Somalia sign a peace treaty.

After Mengistu

1991 - Ethiopian People's Revolutionary Democratic Front captures Addis Ababa, forcing Mengistu to flee the country; Eritrea establishes its own provisional government pending a referendum on independence.


Mengistu fled after failing to stop rebel advance in 1991
1992 - Haile Selassie's remains discovered under a palace toilet.

1993 - Eritrea becomes independent following referendum.

1994 - New constitution divides Ethiopia into ethnically-based regions.

1995 - Negasso Gidada becomes titular president; Meles Zenawi assumes post of prime minister.

1998 - Ethiopian-Eritrean border dispute erupts into armed clashes.

War with Eritrea

1999 - Ethiopian- Eritrean border clashes turn into a full-scale war.

2000 June - Ethiopia and Eritrea sign a ceasefire agreement which provides for a UN observer force to monitor the truce and supervise the withdrawal of Ethiopian troops from Eritrean territory.

2000 November - Haile Selassie buried in Addis Ababa's Trinity Cathedral.

2000 December - Ethiopia and Eritrea sign a peace agreement in Algeria, ending two years of conflict. The agreement establishes commissions to delineate the disputed border and provides for the exchange of prisoners and the return of displaced people.

WAR WITH ERITREA

Tens of thousands perished in a conflict over disputed borders


Q&A: Horn's bitter border war
2001 24 February - Ethiopia says it has completed its troop withdrawal from Eritrea in accordance with UN-sponsored agreement.

2002 April - Ethiopia, Eritrea accept a new common border, drawn up by an independent commission, though both sides then lay claim to the town of Badme.

2003 April - Independent boundary commission rules that the disputed town of Badme lies in Eritrea. Ethiopia says the ruling is unacceptable.

2004 January-February - Nearly 200 killed in ethnic clashes in isolated western region of Gambella. Tens of thousands flee area.

2004 March - Start of resettlement programme to move more than two million people away from parched, over-worked highlands.

2004 November - Ethiopia says it accepts "in priniciple" a boundary commission's ruling on its border with Eritrea. But a protracted stalemate over the disputed town of Badme continues.

2005 March - US-based Human Rights Watch accuses army of "widespread murder, rape and torture" against Gambella region's ethnic Anuak people. Military angrily rejects charge.

2005 April - First section of Axum obelisk, looted by Italy in 1937, is returned to Ethiopia from Rome.

Disputed poll

2005 May - Third multi-party elections: Protests over alleged fraud precipitate violent protests in which around 40 people are shot dead.

2005 August-September - Election re-runs in more than 30 seats: Officials say the ruling party gains enough seats to form a government.


Many were killed in post-election protests in 2005


2006: Report says Ethiopian protesters 'massacred'
2005: High stakes in stand-off
2005 November - 46 protesters die in fresh clashes over May's elections. Thousands of people, including opposition politicians and newspaper editors, are detained.

2005 December - International commission, based in The Hague, rules that Eritrea broke international law when it attacked Ethiopia in 1998.

More than 80 people, including journalists and many opposition leaders, are charged with treason and genocide over November's deadly clashes.

2006 May - Six political parties and armed groups form an opposition alliance, the Alliance for Freedom and Democracy, at a meeting in the Netherlands.

Several bomb blasts hit Addis Ababa. No organisation claims responsibility.

2006 August - Several hundred people are feared to have died and thousands are left homeless as floods hits the north, south and east.

Somalia tensions

2006 September - Ethiopia denies that its troops have crossed into Somalia to support the transitional government in Baidoa.

2006 October - UN Secretary General Kofi Annan urges Eritrea to pull back the troops it has moved into the buffer zone on the Ethiopian border. The UN says the incursion is a major ceasefire violation.

CAMPAIGN IN SOMALIA

Ethiopian forces helped to oust Somalia's Islamists


Timeline: Ethiopia and Somalia
War of words between Ethiopia and Islamists controlling much of Somalia. Prime Minister Meles says Ethiopia was "technically" at war with the Islamists because they had declared holy war on his country.

2006 November - UN report says several countries - including Ethiopia - have been violating a 1992 arms embargo on Somalia by supplying arms to the interim government there. Ethiopia's arch enemy Eritrea is accused of supplying the rival Islamist administration.

Ethiopia and Eritrea reject a proposal put forward by an independent boundary commission as a way around a four-year impasse over the demarcation of their shared border.

Mengistu trial

2006 December - Exiled former dictator Mengistu Haile Mariam is convicted, in absentia, of genocide at the end of a 12-year trial. In January 2007 he is sentenced to life in prison.

Ethiopia confirms it is battling Islamic militia in Somalia. In fierce fighting, Ethiopian aircraft, tanks and artillery support forces of the Somali transitional government. The Islamists are routed.

2007 February - Around 50,000 Somalis have crossed into Ethiopia in the past six months to flee instability at home, the UN High Commissioner for Refugees (UNHCR) reports.

2007

March - A group of British embassy workers and their Ethiopian guides are kidnapped in the northern Afar region bordering on Eritrea. They are eventually released in Eritrea.

2007 April - Gunmen attack a Chinese-owned oil facility in the south-east Somali region, killing 74 people working there.

2007 June - Opposition leaders are given life sentences over mass protests that followed elections in 2005, but are later pardoned.

2007 September - Ethiopia celebrates the start of a new millennium according to the calendar of the Coptic Orthodox Church.

War could resume between Ethiopia and Eritrea over their border conflict, warns United Nations special envoy to the Horn of Africa, Kjell Bondevik.

2007 November - Ethiopia rejects border line demarcated by international boundary commission. Eritrea accepts it.

2008 May - Ethiopia's Supreme Court sentences former ruler Mengistu Haile Mariam - in absentia - to death.

2008 June - Peace agreement signed between Somali government and rebels provides for withdrawal of Ethiopian troops within 120 days.

2008 July - UN Security Council votes unanimously to end UN peacekeeping mission monitoring disputed border between Ethiopia and Eritrea.

2008 September - Celebrations held to mark completion of reassembly of 1700-year-old Axum Obelisk, looted in 1937 during the Italian conquest and returned by Italy in three parts after 2005.

2008 December - Police re-arrest key opposition leader Birtukan Medeksa, who was jailed for her role in the opposition protests after the 2005 polls, and freed under a government pardon in 2007.

Somalia pullout

2009 January - Parliament passes bill banning foreign agencies from work related to human rights or conflict resolution, as well as severely restricting foreign funding for local agencies, in move seen as effort to clamp down on unwanted foreign interference.

Ethiopia completes withdrawal of all its forces from Somalia.

The term "Ethiopia" origins

Last night as I was reading my history of Ethiopia book I read an interesting tidbit...


Ethiopia comes from a Greek term that means "burnt faces" and was once used to describe all of Africa. Over time it came to describe what is presently known as Ethiopia.

Friday, July 3, 2009

Ethiopia Program update from adoption agency

This information about the CHSFS Ethiopia Program is current as of June 19, 09:

2009 Placements:
110 children into 102 families
(including 8 waiting children into 7 families)

Children Referred:
92 children to 76 families

Children Waiting (WIC):
6 children

Families Waiting: 381

....those whose dossier was accepted in May just received referrals. Ours was accepted in August.